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Women have spent years fighting for their equality. For many women the road to success has been about beating a path through the jungle of male prejudice, not showing emotion, and certainly not looking weak. In fact recent research shows markedly increased testosterone levels in women who have heavy duty careers.
The idea of flirting or letting a man know you are interested may seem ‘weak’ and 'at odds' with the concept of no emotion. And yet inside do you think they stop thinking about attracting a man. Of course they don’t. It’s a primal driver with them too. And yet they are suppressing this desire against their basic instincts. This is NOT healthy.
Talk to my ovaries
So what happens when you put these men and women together. Not a lot! Whilst the new behaviour patterns of today make intellectual sense to feminists and new men, they don’t make a lot of sense at ‘below stairs’ level. One of the participants on my playshop, Monica, said to me recently that in order to be attracted to a man he had to ‘talk to her ovaries’ -and she didn’t mean initiating a verbal conversation about the price of eggs. This is a woman who has a very successful career, works out, looks great and is definitely into women’s rights. Yet, here she is going back to her primal drivers expressing a need to be awakened deep down inside.
Paul a participant on one of my seminars said that he always seemed to be classed as ‘good friend’ material with women. He wanted to be more sexually attractive to women. His ex girlfriend complained that he was a little too in touch with his feminine side, that he didn’t give off the protective vibes. I’d say the voice of her ancient primal drivers is behind that statement.
Paul may have been making sweet music to his girlfriend’s modern intellectual brain, but when it came to dialogue with her ovaries, he was definitely not in tune.
It appears that in order to throw off the yoke of one form of perceived repression, we are assuming another in a different guise. It’s time to redress the balance.
Men, it’s about time you started to let some of that sexual drive seep through. Be more of a man. Next time you approach a woman, don’t try to suppress it..let it out and see what happens. And by letting it out I don’t mean unzipping your flies or talking about sex at a first encounter. By accepting that it’s okay to have lusty thoughts about women, and by accessing them before you approach a woman, you will leak that from your pores at a deep ‘below stairs’ level. So long as you refrain from verbalising it and looking at her as if you are already 'doing it to her', she will get the message and because its not verbal, she can’t take offence. In fact you will make a direct connection with her primal drivers. It’s ovary chat time.
Ladies, it's about time you started getting juiced up about what you really want. If you like someone show them. Sometimes, you just know there is a mutual attraction - listen to your gut and below..and go for it. Sometimes you don't know, but you feel it down there or in your heart. Stop worrying about whether it will work out or how you will look and let him know you are interested. Men need very clear signals. They have their concerns, and fears just like you. They need reassurance just like you. And yes, most men think a lot about sex and are open to opportunities. It's only natural. It's your choice to say yes or no. Just be sure to show and say what you mean.